Category Archives: Coaching

Awesome feedback on our first DiSC workshop…


Here’s some of the amazing feedback from our first DiSC workshop:

Mike Snetsinger, General Insurance Broker, AC&D Insurance

I went to Anne’s workshop last week with my daughter. It was a great opportunity to open the communication channels and for both of us to get some insight into one another’s behaviours and personality traits.

Anne and Darrell are a great team they are dynamic and engaging and as I learned can related to every one in the group.

If you are looking to energize your work or family communication this seminar is great way for you to kick start the process.

– Mike Snetsinger


Ricky Shetty, Networking with Purpose

Anne is a passionate presenter – full of energy and enthusiasm while at the same time being fully focused on the needs of the audience. I recently attended Anne’s evening seminar on DiSC Basics – Communicate with Style and took away many actionable and practical tools for my professional and personal life.

Ricky Shetty







March 19th Workshop – Communicating with Style: DiSC Basics

This is the second evening workshop coming up on using the DiSC Profile to understand your own style in behavior and communication. ** registration deadline has been extended til 5pm.

Have you ever wondered why you do what you do? Or why you click naturally with some people and not with others?  This 3 hour workshop introduces the DiSC profile of four behavioural styles to help you understand your personal style. Raising your awareness of your natural preferences will empower you to connect with your innate talent and abilities and use them to connect more powerfully with other people.

Benefits of this workshop:

  • Understand the 4 basic behavioural styles (DiSC)
  • Have a clear understanding of your personal style
  • Learn about what issues are important to you in communication
  • Have a strategy to interact more effectively

This workshop is ideal for sales people, managers, team members and business owners.

DivaFish Communications provides coaching and training in personal development, leadership and team connection and community building.
The common thread is developing the ability to maintain personal integrity while in relationship with other people and organizations.
We are experienced in working with organizations of all shapes and sizes, from one person pre-startups to not-for-profits and
international, public companies. We believe that the key to connecting with other people is to first understand yourself.

Anne Whitmore, Personal Coach & Corporate Trainer

Anne is a professionally trained, certified Co-Active® coach and corporate trainer who is known for helping people connect with
themselves and their community. She specializes in working with business leaders to build their businesses in alignment with their
value systems and own their lives.
Anne has been an entrepreneur for all her life (she had her first business at 6) and has been officially self employed for 11 years.

Darrell Ross, Corporate Trainer
Since 1997, Darrell Ross has delivered hundreds of workshops, seminars and keynotes helping business professionals generate more sales
through effective relationships. He has spoken at international seminars in Vancouver, Toronto, Los Angeles and Seattle and presented
in corporations and trade associations. Darrell is a contributing author to the new York Times best seller “Masters of Networking” and
the Wall Street Journal best seller “Masters of Success”.

Darrell helped develop a “How to Do Business on the Golf Course” training program that has since been franchised throughout North
America. He is currently the corporate trainer for an immigration consulting firm based in Vancouver.

Simple. Practical. Powerful.
*Registration closes for this event at 5 pm on Friday, March 16th.

March 6th Workshop – Communicate with Style: DiSC Basics

This is another evening option for the DiSC Basics workshop.

Have you ever wondered why you do what you do? Or why you click naturally with some people and not with others?  This 3 hour workshop introduces the DiSC profile of four behavioural styles to help you understand your personal style. Raising your awareness of your natural preferences will empower you to connect with your innate talent and abilities and use them to connect more powerfully with other people.

Benefits of this workshop:

  • Understand the 4 basic behavioural styles (DiSC)
  • Have a clear understanding of your personal style
  • Learn about what issues are important to you in communication
  • Have a strategy to interact more effectively

This workshop is ideal for sales people, managers, team members and business owners.


Simple. Practical. Powerful.

*Registration closes for this event at noon on Friday, March 2nd.

Tis the season… to be focused

Coaching is about perfecting that perfection... 😉

My TCM doctor and good friend Dr. Melissa Carr said the other day, “The New Year is a great time for me to find referrals for you because people are taking stock of their life, what they want to do, what they didn’t do last year. It is a good opportunity to introduce coaching to them.” So true.

What did you set out to do last year (maybe in the form of a resolution)? How did it go? What support structures did you have in place to assist you? Did you meet or exceed your goal? If so, way to go!!! If not, what did you do instead?

Making a resolution is the first step... then there's the follow through


What are your dreams and goals for the coming year? What is different about this year?

Who are you becoming? Who are you leaving behind?

Where are you now?

What would support look like for you to accomplish what you want?

What is your focus this year?


Working with a coach will help you clarify your goals, create an action plan and have accountability to make it happen. Try a 20/20 session with me to pinpoint a goal for this year.


In Joy,


Tis the season… to be calm

Have you noticed the pace has picked up this month? When you step into a mall, the frenzy is almost palatable. People scurrying around, desperate for the perfect gift, worried that they have forgotten someone, and distracted by the myriad of colors and choices on display. Bright lights, big stress!!!

The holiday season is meant to be about love, joy and sharing. Somehow the combination of generosity, obligation and tradition with a healthy dose of commercialism has created a mindset that is antithetical to the intention behind the actions. There is a contagious element to the frenetic holiday vibe too. The good news is that we get to choose how we will be about the holidays.


Several years ago, I talked with my family about Christmas and how I was feeling. My preference is to buy gifts for people throughout the year if I see something I think they will really love. I think that in my family, we generally have everything we need and if we don’t, we go and get it. I would rather spend time with someone doing something meaningful than swapping gift cards or checks. Communicating about values has made gift giving a lot lighter and more enjoyable in my family.

If we look at holiday stress as a bit of an epidemic, what is the antidote or inoculation?

– Being clear on what is important or a priority. What will set the house on fire if you don’t do it? What can wait? What is significant even though it is not urgent?

– Setting reasonable goals and timeframes (I remember helping my brother on Christmas Eve to shop for a present for my parents. We actually slid between closing doors to the department store so that we didn’t get locked out… we made it fun but it was also chaotic)

– Take care of yourself. Planning down time – In the go-go-go pace, make time for yourself to relax. You may even need to make appointments with yourself in your calendar. Do things that you enjoy doing or find relaxing. Go see your acupuncturist to boost your immune system and have stress relief. Eat well AND regularly. Have a bubble bath. Take a yoga class. The better rested you are, the more equipped you will be to handle the extra pressure of the season.

– Communicate with the people around you about your approach to the holiday season. Design with your family how you would like to handle different aspects of your time together. Be mindful of your responses and words when people talk about how stressed or crazy they feel. You get to either collude with their stress or be a stress buster.

Sometimes I feel a bit like a country girl floating through the big city. I like to keep life simple (even when traveling at break neck speed) and not engage with the drama.

What is your relationship with calmness?

Tis the Season… of Traditions

Our family has some Swedish heritage so our big family event is Christmas Eve (although, now that I think about it, we also have Christmas Day brunch and turkey dinner on Christmas Day. So we actually had 2 full days of activities… Funny how we can

tell ourselves something that sets a frame when the reality is actually wider.)

Anyhow, we have certain Swedish things that have always been part of our  family tradition on Christmas Eve like sil (pickled herring), potatiskorv (potato sausage) and spritz (little shortbread cookies). Usually the kids help out with making these throughout the week leading up to Christmas. On Christmas Eve, we have dinner at my parents’ with our traditional foods (every now and then my mom tries to throw other things in). After dinner, the dishes must be done before we sit together in the living room and listen to my father read the Christmas story from the Bible. Lighting the advent wreath is also another tradition in our home so on Christmas Eve, the white candle is lit to symbolize the birth of Jesus. My dad will say a prayer of gratitude and blessing and then…. the presents!

The youngest in the family is always the one who hands out the gifts from under the tree (and the tree is always Charlie Brown style as per my dad’s preference). We usually take turns opening one gift at a time. Anyone who receives clothing must model it (this was quite funny when I was younger because my mom’s mom would send her underwear every Christmas. Not only were they granny panties but they were always way too big.) After all the presents are opened (and my dad has collected the paper for recycling), we sit back at the table for dessert.

Over the years, our traditions have changed slightly. I think my mom has managed to add some vegetables to our Christmas Eve dinner. We used to read “The Best Christmas Pageant Ever” together over the weeks of advent and then read the final chapter on Christmas Eve. That no longer is part of our practice although there is usually a joke about the Herdman’s during the evening. In the last couple years, we also play a domino game called the Mexican Train after dessert. Some years, we have included other people at different meals but we have decided that Christmas Eve is most special to us when it is our family at the table.

This year, my new in-laws will be joining us for our Christmas Eve festivities. We have added a new twist to presents as we have added new people to the mix. This year we are doing a present swap. Each person is bringing a wrapped gift with a maximum cost of $25 and we will choose a gift and maybe swipe from each other. Just for kicks, we are doing a second gift with a maximum value of $1.


What are your traditions?

How have they evolved?

What do they mean to you?

Where is your frame set on narrow when there is more in the wider picture?

Project Clean Sink… Revisited.

Category : Coaching , Organization

Ah Project Clean Sink…. This has been sitting on my whiteboard for a few months now. Here’s the scoop. I wear several hats (don’t we all?) and several of those hats have an email account or list attached to them. Each one has its own bunch of email groups, newsletter signups, account notifications, etc. that accumulate quickly and fill up my inbox. There are a number of reasons why this built up… I had one account forwarding to my main account… I filed one and the other backed up with the duplicate… I switched to gmail and wasn’t familiar with the tagging system vs. my familiar Outlook folders… It has been an incredibly full year… blah blah blah blah blah… Bottom line is this (and it is challenging to write this in public):

I have 15,875 email messages in my inbox and 6,575 unread messages. No kidding. Beautiful divisibles of five at this very second.

Whew. I said that and lived. My friend and talented writer, Jen Arbo, has something like 9 whole messages in her inbox. And that is on a busy day… I can’t even imagine what that is like.

I did take a stab at deleting a bunch of them this spring and called it Project Clean Sink. There is a great website about cleaning your house by Flylady. The premise is that you start with a sparkly clean sink and make sure that each evening, you clean your sink out. There is something about starting the day with a clean sink that just makes me smile. So I thought the same principle would apply to my inbox. I spent some time cleaning out my inbox, marking unsolicited mail spam, removing myself from newsletters that I never read, moving my social/art related newsletters to a different place so that work related stuff didn’t get lost. I also cancelled the loop of forwarding emails between accounts that created unnecessary duplication. O. And stopped Facebook, LinkedIn and Twitter notifications for things that my phone notified me of anyhow… done. Believe it or not, I probably reduced my inbox at that time by about 2500 messages.

It has been a very full summer and now it is time to address the rest of the inbox. One of the reasons that I didn’t complete my spring project was that I had very black and white terms: either my inbox was clean or not clean. This time, I am giving myself until the end of the year to have this finished. I am allocating one hour per work day for the month of December to work on this. On average that means cleaning up 550 messages per day.

So here is my plan.

  • Tap into what it is about a clean email box that is important to me (being able to clearly see what needs to be done, make sure important emails don’t get buried, help me be timely with my responses, let go of clutter in this area)
  • Clutter… get clear on what is it that keeps me holding on to the email (fear of deleting something that I might need later – really? I am not dealing in life or death here)
  • Have accountability on what I want to get done with this and by when (uh huh. It isn’t good enough to think about a Clean Sink. You have to do some scrubbing. Publishing this is a  huge accountability. And I will ask the above said Jen to hold me accountable. We are overdue for a tea and chat fest so that will be a good deadline.
  • Visualize – well, part of the visual for me is that I have a new laptop from my amazing husband, Glen Murray. He wanted me to have a new tool for my business as well as part of our grand migration back to Mac. I want my email to be cleaned up so that my laptop is running clean and sleek. I also have moved my business to be paperless so cleaning up the inbox is a virtual extension of that.
  • Celebrate – What will I do to acknowledge the hard work that goes into creating a clean  inbox? My tea with Jen will be part of it. And moving to my new computer will be another one. Hmmm.. to close the door to the full inbox, I will also be getting rid of my old computer. Buh bye.

Going forward:

I say yes to:

  • being in control of my inbox
  • organization
  • efficiency

I say no to:

  • Clutter
  • Being passive about my inbox
  • Spam

What is the Project Clean Sink that you want to tackle? Want to join me in busting through a project?

The Gift of Pain

Here is an article I wrote for Dr. Melissa Carr‘s newsletter about pain:

Now you may be thinking, “Isn’t that just like a coach to try to spin the good into every situation…” Pain is one way that our bodies communicate with us that things aren’t going well. Regardless of the type of pain – physical, mental, emotional, spiritual or how you experience it – there is information there.

The gift of pain is an awareness that all is not right in our world. It’s like the fire alarm going off on one floor of a multi-story building. One alternative is to close off the floor and not go there anymore. Another is to turn off the alarm and continue business as usual. Or run around yelling about how the building is on fire. Or sit in hopelessness that the fire is probably going to spread and burn down the whole place. Or call in the firefighters… Or an electrician to examine the wiring… Or…

How we are with our pain is related to what we do about it. Emotional pain is often ignored or suppressed. The expression “Time heals all wounds” gives hope that the sharpness of the pain will fade and soon disappear. The thing is that unless the cause of the pain is resolved, it will eventually pop back up again, often when we least expect it and with a vengeance. Sometimes with physical pain, we take painkillers or try to ‘push through it’, hoping that our body will resolve the issue on its own. Or we can choose to seek out the help of a specialist, like a doctor or TCM, to find the source of the injury and heal it.

You get to choose. Coaching is one way to really feel your area(s) of pain, explore the possibilities and then choose how you want to address it.

The ultimate gift of pain is the opportunity to connect with ourselves, choose a path and seek healing.

In Joy,

School or career change?

Category : Career , Coaching

Here is another guest post as part of the BNI Amplify’s Health and Wellness team on the topic of Back to School. If you are thinking of a career change or possibly retraining for a new career, consider how you will be sure you are headed in the right direction. Read my post here.